In response to an interview on Marie TV with Cheryl Strayed who wrote among other books “Wild”.
You can see that full interview here: https://www.marieforleo.com
I very much enjoyed what Cheryl had to say. I liked her down to earthness--being humble through the struggle. I am a Jungian Psychologist in Edmonton, Alberta and my work is to help clients find compassion by, not pushing the critical voice away, but by taking up a relationship to it. As children most of us are not encouraged to express what we really think or want--just think of two year old children--what is the first and only word they want to say--"No"--yes they overdue it--but it is the beginning of healthy boundaries where we know ourselves to be other than the parent with different desires and wants--even knowings. And so many parents, certainly in my day find the quickest road to taking that "No" away from us. So as adults this "yes" to everyone is really our "true selves" lost. We are not able to say no because we are taking care of the other's needs and feelings instead of our own--this happens to us children when our No get's taken away. I teach or really it is the persons dreams that teach (that I help to shine the light on) them to see the world from their true perspective again--instead of through their parent's or societies or the sibling they were compared to--this is where the critical voice originates from --these expectations. And when we relate to the critical voice, we get to say "yes that is your perspective, however I feel different and this is how I feel"--this empowers us and dis-empowers the critic. We get to respond in a true healthy way which we were not allowed to do as children. Instead we were taught to take care of our parent’s needs or societies. This is not to blame parents, but to take responsibility for what has happened and to begin to see through our own "soul" eyes and to live and express ourselves from there. I also help parents learn how to mirror who their child is through relationship and connection first and then to help direct them. In this way the child is honoured for who they are and what they feel and also guided by the parent's wisdom and maturity. And when we begin to value our "true selves", we can value others, our children's, our partners and our friends and community.
I have been "wonder-ing" about my first blog post and listening to Cheryl Strayed (I love the metaphor of her name as it brings up Jung's idea of stepping outside the "herd mentality") who is an author and down to earth human being encouraging everyone to write today in her interview with Marie Forleo on MarieTV--started me on this blog--mission accomplished Cheryl!
The painting on this blog page comes from a dream of finding again the fairy costume from when I was five years old. Painting this dream brought me back to the joy and fun I felt wearing this wonderful costume. Every time I dream the dream forward, and I maginally put the fairy costume on, I feel the beauty and magic I felt then--an enlivening. More in my next blog post